How to Save Your
Christian Marriage
The idea that you would need to save a Christian marriage
may seem like a contradiction in terms. The truth is however,
that even Christian people are still human, mistakes will be
made that can be very hard on a marriage. Husbands and wives
are free to choose rightly or wrongly and when they choose
wrong, it can be devastating to the marriage. However there is
hope, where God is at the center there is always hope. If you
are looking for ways to save your Christian marriage below are
a few tips to help.
Assess
As with any marriage, your first steps to save your
Christian marriage should be an assessment of the problems. Are
you and your spouse simply having communication issues or is
there something more serious? Infidelity, lying or abuse are
definitely more destructive than a miscommunication and will
certainly require more work.
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Oneness
Sometimes the problems in a marriage are magnified by
outside influences. Parents, siblings and even friends can make
matters worse, and although their words and advice are
generally said in love, you should remember what scripture says
about your marriage; "Therefore a man shall leave his father
and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become
one flesh" (Gen 2:18 & 21-24). It is not wrong to get
advice from others but be careful about who you are listening
to, if someone is constantly degrading your spouse this is not
Godly counsel and you should politely refuse to listen.
Marriage Saving
Scripture
Perhaps the best scripture on how to save your Christian
marriage is found in Ephesians 5:33, "However, each one of you
also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must
respect her husband" There is a reason the bible teaches that
men are to love their wives and women are to respect their
husbands. God knows the inner workings of the children he
created and that knowledge includes the deepest desires. Women
desire to be loved and men desire to be respected. That is not
to say that women should show no love, or men should show no
respect, heaven forbid! However, if you are trying to save your
Christian marriage this should be the first area you check.
Active
Respect
One way you can show your husband respect is by quietly
agreeing to a decision he makes. Even if you feel he is in
error, let him be the leader he was born to be. If it turns out
you were right and the decision causes a problem, do not berate
him. Come along side him and support him no matter what, this
conveys a deep respect that will touch his heart.
Active
Love
Gentlemen, you may think that loving your wife simply means
telling her the three magic words, but there is so much more to
it than that. The bible says to love your wife as Christ loved
the church and he laid down his life for her! Lay aside
something that is important to you for her. Cancel a hunting
trip, take a day off from work, anything to spend time you find
precious with her.
Finally
There is much to be learned about how to save a Christian
marriage. These are just the beginning basics. The word of God
is full of advice and tips that will make your marriage
stronger and you happier. The final bit of advice is to pray;
whatever the issues are, take them before God in prayer. In
fact some things that you would love to get off your chest to
your spouse, Do not! Take them to the Lord instead and ask for
wisdom to deal with the issues that are driving you crazy.
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